Have you ever felt like you were missing something or rather someone? I have met many young, and old, youth workers who are desperate for that “person” to share the ups and downs of youth ministry but equally need someone to help them develop the skills they need to build a successful youth ministry.
Are you one of those who’s missing “that person”? to help you put the pieces of the puzzle of youth ministry together? Do you need a mentor or a coach. You need a little bit of both.
What’s the difference between a mentor and coach? A mentor is someone who’s committed, long term to helping people get the best out of the their life. A coach, on the other hand, looks at what you’re “putting on the field”, the x;s and o’s, and offers an opinion about whether our goals and our plan/strategy match up. Essentially, I think mentors work inside out and a coach works outside in.
One way I determine if I need a mentor or a coach is to listen to my own whining. Yes, our sighs, groaning, and questions can tell us what we need,
Mentor Type Questions
1. Why do I feel so directionless?
2. Why aren’t my goals making me happy?
3. What do I do in this situation?
4. What do I do with this failure?
5. Who will walk with me through this thing?
Mentoring is a two way street. We have to risk something to have a mentoring relationship. We have to be honest about where we are in life. If we’re saying that “no one will mentor me” it might be because we don’t want a mentor, we just want someone to fix us.
Coaching Type Questions
1. How do I set up my small groups?
2. How do I reach teens?
3. When should I plan my outreach?
4. Should I do small groups instead of large weekly meetings?
Coaching is about mechanics. There may be some mentoring involved in your coaching and coaching in your mentoring, but it’s mostly about technique, like a quarterback coach working on the three step drop or how to slide out of the pocket so you don’t get crushed by a linebacker.
In the end, there’s some coaching in mentoring and some mentoring in coaching. The questions becomes. “Which of these do I need in my life right now?” and “Where can I find one?”
We’ll discuss this more in my week long focus on mentoring and coaching.
Which of these roles do you think you need in your life right now?
What are the questions you have been
whining about asking yourself?
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