I heard the phrase “Fix the well, not the sink” the other day on The GaryVee show. I thought the phrase was worth exploring.
We all have a well, a depth of heart and spirit where everything we think and say draws from. I don’t know how many times I’ve said, “Why did I say that? ” or “Why do I have this mindset? ” . My mouth and my mind are the sink and they were not my was problem.
“The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” Luke 6:45
So, how does one fix the well?
Here are a few questions to start with?
What is the earliest memory of hurt in your life? How did that negatively impact you?
How have those hurts shaped who you are today?
Because of hurts and damage done, what do you think you’ve entitled yourself to because of those hurts?
Do you think it’s ok to hurt others? Do you think it’s ok to focus on self rather than to serve?
Who’ been poisoning your well? Who have you been hanging around or listening to that has dripped unhealthy philosophies, ideologies, negativity or bad habits into your well?
Moving forward after a hurt is hard especially if its shaped who you are, but change is possible. Jesus also said,
for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.“The eye is the lamp of the body; so then if your eye is clear, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light that is in you is darkness, how great is the darkness! Matthew 6:22,23
Jesus was more than likely talking about our physical eyes, but it is not too far a stretch to say that He also was warning against what our “inward eyes”, our conscience, focuses on.
Jesus say that we need to have clear eyes.
What issues do we need to clear up? Externally? Internally?
Where we place our outward in inward focus will determines the healthiness of the well, and ultimately, what comes our of our sink.