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10 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Became A Youth Pastor

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I was advising a young man on career advice and thought I’d pass it along to you who are young youth workers or thinking about becoming a youth pastor. It’s also not too late for you older folks.

  1. Focus on retirement. You may not be a youth pastor forever. I am playing catch up. You don’t have to

2. Get a degree in something other than youth ministry so you have something to support your family on.

4. Don’t wait until someone gives you permission or affirmation to do what you love. Even if you’re currently a youth pastor, start that podcast about your love of coffee or your YouTube channel on travel. It’s never too late do what you love.

5. Knowledge is great, but it will always be about who you know not what you know, so network often with those who have the same passions and goals you have.

6. Seek God not the position. I would have saved myself a lot of trouble if I had kept my eyes on the Lord and not my personal agenda .

7. Don’t quit a job until you have another one. Your family will thank you. No matter how bad it gets, work harder, faster to make sure you have a plan before you say “I quit”

8. Manage your ambitions. Those great ideas you have, never unfold exactly as you think they will. Get counsel.

9. You have two way to choose a church you want to work in. You choose the church (style, programs, vibe, etc.) or you choose the leader/pastor which ranges from the maniacal type A where nothing will be good enough and run you into the ground to the people pleasing leader who allows the congregation to run over them, both are bad. Choose the leader because the congregation will never save your job.

10. Be more practical than magical in your thinking. The church, as an organization, will do what is best for that themselves and not for you and your family. Hence number one and number two. Be invested but not married to your role, because it can go away and it’s not who you are anyway.


11. Learn to disciple yourself. Read, grow, do. After a certain age, it is expected that you should know everything by now and people will stop investing in you. Invest in yourself, always, and you’ll never have to become co-dependent on others to do for you what you can do for yourself. Nobody owes you anything. You owe yourself.

My friend Alex says,

Make yourself valuable. Ministry is a multi hat career. The more hats you can wear, the better. Learn graphic design, video production, social media, web design…anything and everything to make you more valuable to a church. Especially when it comes to technology and the digital world we live in.

That’s not everything I needed to know, but these were the most important.

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