The news broke yesterday that NBA Jason Collins came out as gay. The full story will be in the new issue of Sports Illustrated. As a Christian, I am not dismayed, but to be honest, I have other issues, 10 to be exact, that I am focused on at the moment:

1. Paying my mortgage

2. What’s for dinner?

3. What will I post about tomorrow on this blog?

4. How are my kids are doing in school

5. Finishing this pantry project in my house.

6. My Thrift Store Prom event for our youth ministry this Friday.

7. Wednesday Youth Service.

8. Iron Main 3

9. Writing stuff


10 What others will think of or accuse me of because of this post

What does this list mean? Life goes on. Life is still normal.

I think of it this way.  What if Jason were one of my students? Would I cancel worship? Disband the youth group? Send out nasty tweets about them? Burn them at the stake at the next youth weenie roast? No, life would go on, and life goes on for me. We treat stories like this as abnormal. They are unique, but not abnormal. In fact, with this confession, things like this may become more normal.

What else should be normal? Love. We, as Christians, should be known as great lovers of people. Do not deviate, Do not be led off the path of love and into the fray of  judging and politicizing. Would you let others in the youth ministry talk bad about your student Jason? I didn’t think so. Let’s treat Jason, like he was one of our own students, and love him.

I Cor 13:4 (and the rest of the chapter)  and I John 4:12

Have you ever had a student come out publicly that they were gay? Tell me, because I, and I think a bunch of other youth workers, have never had a kid come out to them or publicly. Your thoughts are valuable.

What if Jason were your student? What would you do?

Has this happened in your youth ministry? Did life go on? Was it different?



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  1. Matthew

    Actually i have had a student come out. She was a junior in our youth ministry that tried several times to commit suicide. Through my wife and i counseling with her we realized there were more problems than a broken home life. We suggest professional christian counseling along with staying connect with us. I had an idea that homosexuality was a struggle for her as well but she never came out with it in conversation. Later that year it was brought up in discussion and I told her that homosexuality was a sin in the eyes of God. She quickly rose the defense and stood up and asked me, “So if i told you i was gay then you wouldnt love me?” The next words blew her mind. I told her no i wouldnt say that and that we would always love her and that most of all Christ loves her. Yes we as Christians are to be set apart from this world. But what makes your sin any less than mine in the eyes of Christ.
    John 13:34 So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.
    How do we expect to reach the lost if we do not love?

  2. Thanks for sharing that story. It’s so important to communicate our unconditional love as well as God’s unconditional love in these circumstances.

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