Worship: Pardon The Interruption

I was in a prayer meeting with six or seven students. One of the leaders brought an IPhone to play worship music on. I do this often as well but tonight the inevitable happened; in the middle of a song the phone rang, later you could hear an email come through, then a Words With Friends update.

I could have taken the route of saying, “nothing should distract you from worshipping God”. Then I began to think of worship as a relational activity with God rather than to God.

What if God wants to interrupt our worship? Our song? Our prayer? Our dance? What if he has something to tell us or reveal to us?

Many religions objectify their god. Their god is a static tool for them to worship. The god simply sits and listens to the chants and prayers and is under no obligation to interact with it’s worshippers. But this is not true of our God.

We teach our students and ourselves to focus on worshipping Jesus and to not be distracted. But, what if the thought that we think is  a distraction, is from God himself?

  • Maybe their is sin God wants us to repent of in the middle of our Chris Tomlin song? Isn’t that what the presence of God does? All things come to light. In God’s presence, Isaiah became aware of his foul mouth.
  • Jesus said,  “So if you are presenting a sacrificei at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God.” Matthew 5:23-24 Maybe God wants us to stop worshipping and reconcile a relationship.

I guess my overall point is that God is not an idol of static worship.  He is the ever-living God who wants to celebrate a son coming home, forgive a sinner who repents, hug a child seeking love, befriend a lonely soul seeking a friend. Let us worship God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength. Let us leave room for God to interrupt our singing, our raising of hands, our kneeling and focus so we may worship Him with our obedience.

Anatomy of a Blown Event: Where Did I Go Wrong?

If I had a $1 for every failed event….well, lets just say, I would have a lot of dollars. Events are cool when we pull them off, but is that all there is to an event? Not the good ones. When the pre, actual, and post event pieces come together, it’s a beautiful thing. When they don’t, we get called into offices, meet with budget committees, make volunteers mad, and possibly lose kids and respect. If we have a string of events like this, it can cost us out jobs. Let me offer sell you some Event Insurance. Take a look at your events and see where they are going off track.

Every event starts with an idea.. The problem with ideas are that youth workers cook these up in a secret lab in an undisclosed location, a puff of smoke rises, we cry, “Eureka!” and begin telling everyone what we are going to  do and how everyone is going to help me execute my great idea. It’s right after that great idea pops in our head, that we can start going down hill, and fast.

Failed events have one or more of these elements in common

  • We keep an idea to ourselves. In other words, it’s our event and not the groups. It is our precious idea and we don’t want anyone else getting credit for it (see the last point)
  • We plan it ourselves. We get so jazzed about our idea, we break out our Mac or yellow note pad and before you know it, it’s done. Just because we have a good idea doesn’t mean we should do it.
  • We promote it ourselves. I hate making announcements. They are a necessary evil though, if we want to get the word out. But wait, what if the students, and your adult leaders were so bought in you could tone those announcement down a notch.
  • We execute it ourselves. Because we thought of it we feel most responsible to make it happen. So, we wind up making all the phone calls, set up all the chairs, and call for the food. This makes us a stoke waiting to happen.
  • We praise ourselves. I think the true test of any event is not how much we have done but how many people did it take to accomplish it. If it is something only you could do, it is possible that your event was too small.

Successful events have one or ore of these elements in common:

  • Start with “What If”. Take your idea to various levels in your church, from students, staff, parents, pastors, heck, ask the custodian while you are at it. Not everyone will care but they maybe able to offer that nudge that gets you a better insight on your idea.
  • Pray about it, plan and tweak it together. At your next meeting of students and adults, have a marker board available and do some brainstorming. Collect ideas and then whittle them down to the best ideas. Be sure to pray before and up to the event.
  • It’s everyone’s job to promote. Social media like Facebook, Twitter, and other venues, make it easy to get the word out, but nothing beats a personal invitation. Put some invites in your kids and leaders hands and let them loose. Check out the Freebie Page on my website www.thediscipleproject.net for a checklist called How To Get The Word Out.
  • Students do it, you help them. If the students own it form the idea phase you won’t have to do much but assist them. Let them be the visionaries and you hep them execute it. Let them book the band, call the speaker, set up chairs, order the food, etc. Assign an  adult to each student or group and let them walk through it with them.
  • Celebrate the successes and mistakes. Every event or group of events should have a debrief. Talk about what worked and what didn’t. Make sure to share the joy of watching your students lead. Praise will make them want to try again, and again.

Youth ministry is not all about events, but if we must do them, we might as well do them successfully. There are a multitude of tiny details I could have included, why not fill in the gaps for me. Leave your suggestion(s) below.

Check out my cool diagram I included here Anatomy of a Blown Event.

Failure Is An Option

I was told numerous times in staff meetings over the years that failure is not an option. But it is and it should be. Usually this slogan is centered around:

  • a big church event
  • keeping your job
  • growing the church or youth ministry (see #2)

This is small thinking at it’s worst. Failure in these cases is certainly an option and should be an option. I was recently on a missions trip and the boys we were with were making some building mistakes. Our crew chief, Billy (an amazing man) would say, if you are not failing you are not doing anything. I could not agree more. Our fear point for failure revolves around us. We worry what others (the world), other churches, or believers will think of the us or our church (small c).

We need to broaden our view of failure. Would Peter’s daring walk on water be nearly as interesting if he had not sunk? No, because the lesson here is not: Don’t Sink, the message is: Keep your eyes on Jesus. We are so worried about sinking we never even think of getting out of the boat. Let us  keep our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith.

Let’s challenge our youth and ourselves to fail greatly for the cause of Christ. This should be our list and mandate for failing. These are dreams, goals, and mandates that our worthy of our efforts and even our failures in our effort to achieve them.

  • Building the Kingdom of God
  • Raising up a new generation of leaders
  • Making our youth ministry student-led instead of spectator induced
  • Keeping our personal lives above reproach (this does not mean making mistakes)
  • Glorifying God with our lives

Now go and fail greatly; believing that in the end, there is no failure  or condemnation in Christ Jesus.

Need some more inspiration? Here ya go:

Failure Magazine

Michael Jordan “Failure” Commercial

How Failure Breeds Success

Failing Forward- John Maxwell

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7 Tips For Launching Student Led Ministry

“Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought [them] to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that [was] its name.

So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.”

Genesis 2:19,20

Have you been wondering how you can release more ministry to your students? God shows us, by example, how to release ministry. Here are a few points I take from these verses

  • God is not worried that Adam will some how screw up His creation.
  • God has no ego. He was not afraid that Adam would steal his thunder.
  • God trusts Adam even though he is new in town.
  • God did not go back and change the names He didn’t like (he didn’t say “Aardvark, that’s a stupid name.”)
  • God empowered Adam over the creation.
  • God gave Adam a task He believed he could handle.
  • God did not do for Adam what Adam could do for himself.

God shows us by example, how to trust students. Each of these steps are something we can do with our students

  • Let students altar, throw away, or tweak your perfect plan.
  • Put away your ego. It’s their ministry. Most of them will be there longer than you will.
  • Put kids on the path to lead. Show them the path and lead them.
  • Live with some of the decisions they make even if you don’t agree.
  • Give kids a vested interest in their community of faith called the Church.
  • Give tasks to students that set them up for success. (did you notice God did not expect Adam to name all the fish in the sea)
  • God could have named the animals and then told Adam what they were. Adam probably remembered the names more because he named them himself. Students will own the ministry more if they are naming it themselves (and I don’t mean just naming the youth group but putting their names on the whole ministry)

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10 iPhone Apps Youth Workers Might Find Useful

Here are a few of my apps that get me by when I am in a pinch.


Creative Whack Pack– This is a fun way to take old ideas and see them through a new lens. Nice for the price, considering I paid $20 for the actual card pack.

Receipts Lite– Ever get in trouble for not turning in your receipts? This will help you budget and get those receipts in. For more detail, get the paid app.


Guitar Tool Kit– I have to fill in sometimes to play for worship. This app is great for me because it has a tuner and a ton of chords I can look up.

Atomic Fart– Need I say more?

You Must Choose– Fun digital version of the Would You Rather books. Great for road trips or small group openers.


IBook– This is a pretty good app for reading books on your phone. You can save your page, highlight paragraphs, and make notes.


POW– This is a fun app and a different way to post pics of your students. You can make short comic strips complete with dialogue bubbles. Oh the stories you could tell.


Fluent News– This is a great app because is culls major news organizations and picks top stories. You can also check stories by categories and save the stories you like in a folder.


Story Cubes– This is a fun tool to get kids to make a story. Shake your phone and roll the dice. Each student has to take a die and make the word on the die part of the group story.

Word Twiddle– Feeling stuck for a word or thought? This random little tool may jog your memory. I use this sometimes when thinking about new names for youth programs.

Am I missing an important app that would be beneficial for youth workers? Let me know.

What Youth Workers Do VS What We Are Paid For

Have you been brushing up the latest youth ministry techniques? Maybe you have been reading relational youth ministry strategies. At any rate, stop! That is probably not what your church pays you for.

Here is a short list of things your church does not pay for you for:

  • Building relationships with students
  • Preaching and or teaching
  • Praying for kids
  • Attending church and or worshipping
  • Studying your Bible
  • Loving kids
  • Discipling kids
  • Good Theology

If you are called to youth ministry, you will do these things regardless. There is no price tag you can place on it.  Besides, think about your yearly or quarterly reviews. Are you ever called on the carpet for any of these things? My guess is No. So, let me present a list of things you are probably paid for and  we all should be brushing up on:

  • Budgeting
  • Training and Leading a team
  • Fun activities and programming
  • Numeric Youth Group Growth
  • Ideas that will grow the church body
  • Paper work
  • Marketing
  • Organization
  • Understanding and Operating new Technology (AKA Social Media)
  • Handling Crisis (make everything better)

So, if you are about to be hired or are changing churches, don’t get confused for what you are actually paid for. The former list is what happens in the midst of the latter list. We live for the former list and endure the latter list. You might want start thinking about changing your summer reading list. Let me offer a few suggestions

And for those who still won’t give up connecting with kids, in spite of the fact that you are not getting paid for it. I recommend the book by Jonathan McKee called Connect. Great book.

Seven Questions I’d Like My Pastor To Ask Me

I was just thinking about this and there are questions I would like my Pastor’s to ask me. Maybe you want your Pastor to ask you too. If I am missing some please feel free to add yours. These are in no particular order

1. What have you been reading in Scripture?

I don’t remember the last time, if ever, a pastor has asked me this question. I want them to ask me because I want to share what God is teaching me and to show that I am growing in my relationship with God.

2. When was the last time you looked at porn?

I struggled with this about 10 years ago and I make sure I tell every pastor I have worked for that I have struggled with it. It’s part of my accountability.

3. How is your marriage? Kids?

This is an important question. I want a pastor who is aware of not only aware of my needs but my family’s needs. How many marriages have imploded because a marriage wasn’t nurtured or because the youth pastor stayed too long at the office or on the road. This is a life saving question.

4. How is God speaking to you?

This may seem like a questions about prayer but God speaks in many ways. I want to know that someone cares about my soul and that my soul is connecting with God and not the world.

5. Where do you see your life going?

Youth pastors young or old are always seeking God’s will. They ask “What’s next?” Youth Pastors need career guidance. I need a guide to help me make hard choices. The next question I’d like to hear after this is “How can I help?”

6. Who are you mentoring/discipling?

I want my pastor to hear and feel the needs of the students in our group. I want him to ask about who I am leading and where they are in their spiritual growth. I want them to ask me this so they can walk with them through the stories I tell them and maybe take extra interest in them the next time they see them.

7. Who are you sharing/demonstrating the gospel to?

I always want to remain close to lost people. I want to be accountable for sharing my faith and passing along what Jesus has done for me. Failure to ask this questions leaves me vulnerable to the fear of man, laziness, or apathy.

These are just a few of the questions I thought of. What questions do you want your Pastor to ask you?

Are We Chasing Unicorns?

Unicorns are elusive mythological horses with one horn in the middle of their head. Posters of them adorn many a young girls room. We are fascinated by myths: Big Foot, The Loch Ness Monster, UFO’s, etc. People and organizations have spent millions of dollars over the years searching for these illusive creatures.

Wipe that smile off your face, you’ve been chasing unicorns for years. No really, we all have. We go from church to church or closet to closet in our churches looking for unicorns. “Are they  Christian Unicorns?” you ask. Doesn’t matter, we look anyway. We are in search of that mythological church experience. What kind of experiences? If you are a church worker of any kind here are the kinds of myths we chase:

  • The Pastor who “really” cares about students.
  • The Pastor who “really” cares about us.
  • The budget we “really” need to reach students.
  • The students and youth staff that are completely sold out to our ideas.
  • The church with the right facilities.
  • The church who will pay us what we are worth
  • The nice janitor.
  • The secretary who isn’t crabby.
  • The 80% of parents who are totally behind you.
  • The big youth group
  • The spiritual church

The list of unicorns are endless. We search high and low for these creatures seeking their magical qualities. We believe if we have them they grant us wishes and bring us happiness. The problem is, Jesus doesn’t want us to have them . Unicorns are God’s blessings, if we get them, that is great but if we don’t is should not matter because God did not call us to chase unicorns; He called us to follow Him. The devil’s trick is to whisper in our ear “There are unicorns right over there. Perfection awaits you at that church. You’ll have everything you need. You will be complete.” This is total garbage. The more we chase unicorns the more unhappy we become and the further away from Jesus we get.  But can we help ourselves. Some of us are jazzed by the hunt alone. We are like Ahab chasing Moby Dick. We spend our whole lives or careers chasing the imaginary, the perfect scenario and often wind up in burn own or worse.

I don’t know if unicorns exists. The Bible makes mention of them. But I tire of chasing unicorns. If one should appear during my travels with Jesus then I will thanks Him for the visitation but until then, unicorns will have to come looking for me.

Is Your Youth Ministry Leaking?

Day 52 and the news  (like like the oil) just keeps coming. The BP oil disaster in the gulf is a business/life/youth ministry in the making. Let me offer some advice about handling leaks:

You may be leaking students, vision, or enthusiasm , and  these are just  few of the possible leaks you may be facing. Looking at the questions coming out of the gulf, it seems we can do a better job if we will

1. Admit there is a leak. Ignoring it will not make it go away.

2. Determine the extend of the leak. Can I handle it myself?

3. Take responsibility for the leak. Someone has to own it.

4 Partner with others. Find the people in your network who can hep you fix the leak. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

5. Be ready to answer a lot of questions. Who? What? Where? How? and When?

6. Over communicate about the leak. If there is a problem, do your best to over communicate the progress you are making and the solutions you are coming up with.

7. Have a strategy for these leaks to not occur again. Collaborate to solve problems. BP just put cameras underwater to watch these pipes 24/7. Do you have systems in place to watch for possible leaks?

Leaks are bound to happen, but how we handle them is equally as important as stopping the leak itself.