Re-Brandng a ministry sounds daunting, and it is, if you don’t know where to start. In this episode of the Youth Ministry In Motion podcast, I share how I started the rebranding process with just three questions.
What do you do when a kid (or kids) from a fellow youth workers youth group comes to your youth ministry?
If you’re in a small town, like mine, you’re going to have kids church hop. Kids will make the rounds from youth group to youth group. You know those kids, they come for a few months and then they’re gone,. Trying to get them to commit is like trying to nail snot to a door.
Then, there are those times when a kid who attends. another youth group regularly shows up at your youth meetings. This can be a little awkward if you’re friends with the youth worker of that church. It’s even more awkward if you’re not friends with them.
So, do you tell that youth worker their kid was in your youth group the night before?
I have a standing rule, if I know the youth pastor, and I know one of their kids has attended my group, I give them a heads up the next day. It’s what I would want them to do for me. I would want them to tell me if one of my students was at their group because
That student may have a personal issue with me and is avoiding me
I may be doing a poor job of helping that student plug into our ministry
I would want to know the kid is at least going somewhere
I consider it a professional courtesy to let the other youth worker know that their kid has been showing up to my group. I believe that youth worker needs the chance to investigate why their kid would be checking out other youth groups, especially if that kid is a leader.
I would not say that snatching other kids from other ministries is the unpardonable sin of youth ministry, but if you believe in reaping and sowing, I’d watch how you handle other church’s kids.
What do you think? Has someone ever stolen one of your kids and never told you? Would you (have you) stolen someone else’s kids and never told the other youth pastor?
Making life-long followers of Jesus. It’s kind of the point of my blog here. Every idea, video, etc, is meant to encourage you to think long term. To change something about yourself, your program, or even your theology when it some to making disciples.
I want you to become life-long disciple makers, not just more creative youth workers. Playing better games is a means to an end. Being an awesome communicator is not the end game . It’s not about tactics, it’s about the lifestyle.
“But making disciples is far more than a program. It is the mission of our lives. It defines us. A disciple is a disciple maker.”
― Francis Chan, Multiply: Disciples Making Disciples
My hope is that every post, every video, every resource, leads us all to becoming lifelong disciple makers and not just better youth pastors.
Just had a conversation with a friend of mine. Her and her husband wanted counseling to work on their marriage. As many of us, who wanted help I our marriage, we’d look outside of our church because we might think the people in our church were too close to the situation.
She told me she went to another church, who has counselor on staff, but because her and her husband were not members the sessions were to cost $120 per hour. This made me just sick.
Church who have this “members only” attitude are why many churches are struggling to have any members at all. I can understand paying for a counselors time but $120 an hour? For people who just want to help their marriage?
Here’s a few suggestions for you “Members Only” Churches
Create a fund or a scholarship to help these non-members at least receive one meeting with a counselor.
Have the counselor do a Facebook Live or other online consultation that does not have to last one hour.
Have the counselor create a series of videos with a comment section or a downloadable pdf where couples can answer questions together.
Yes, there are a few things that should be members only:
Voting in business meetings
Leadership Roles (Teacher, Deacon, etc.)
I just don’t understand the the arrogance of a church today to look at people and simply refuse to work with someone who is actually trying to make things right in their lives.
When people price something astronomically high, they do it on purpose because they do not want to work with you. This is how people are vetted and are declared unwelcome.
I understand, commitment is a two a way street. We want the people to commit to our congregation, pay their tithes that underwrite the counselor, etc. but for heaven’s sake, let’s make room for those who cannot do anything. I’m not saying we have to do it for everyone, but let’s make room for those Non-Members and at least treat them as fellow believers.
Remember, Members Only belongs on jackets in the 90’s, the past, not on today’s churches.
Are you a members only church? What can only members do?
Is there room for non-memebers, who are looking for help, to participate?
I heard the phrase “Fix the well, not the sink” the other day on The GaryVee show. I thought the phrase was worth exploring.
We all have a well, a depth of heart and spirit where everything we think and say draws from. I don’t know how many times I’ve said, “Why did I say that? ” or “Why do I have this mindset? ” . My mouth and my mind are the sink and they were not my was problem.
“The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” Luke 6:45
So, how does one fix the well?
Here are a few questions to start with?
What is the earliest memory of hurt in your life? How did that negatively impact you?
How have those hurts shaped who you are today?
Because of hurts and damage done, what do you think you’ve entitled yourself to because of those hurts?
Do you think it’s ok to hurt others? Do you think it’s ok to focus on self rather than to serve?
Who’ been poisoning your well? Who have you been hanging around or listening to that has dripped unhealthy philosophies, ideologies, negativity or bad habits into your well?
Moving forward after a hurt is hard especially if its shaped who you are, but change is possible. Jesus also said,
for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.“The eye is the lamp of the body; so then if your eye is clear, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light that is in you is darkness, how great is the darkness! Matthew 6:22,23
Jesus was more than likely talking about our physical eyes, but it is not too far a stretch to say that He also was warning against what our “inward eyes”, our conscience, focuses on.
Jesus say that we need to have clear eyes.
What issues do we need to clear up? Externally? Internally?
Where we place our outward in inward focus will determines the healthiness of the well, and ultimately, what comes our of our sink.
In fact, I did not gain a degree from any college. I am one class (Math) shy of an AA from my local community college. So, what’s a guy with no college degree in youth ministry busy doing creating his own courses on youth ministry? Before I answer this question, let me give you a little background.
When I was 18 I thought I had to ship myself off to college and get a degree in order to be a youth pastor. Three months in, I discovered something, I hated school. I hated doing things on someone else’s terms. My mind was abuzz with sermon ideas, programming ideas, and a whole lot more. So, I dropped out. Two years later I shipped myself off to a one year discipleship school that focused on practical youth ministry, and that is what I needed, hands on experience.
So, let me answer the question, “What’s a guy, who doesn’t have a youth ministry degree, doing making courses about Youth Ministry?” Because, I think most youth leader in my position want practical hands on advice, just like I did.
It’s for this reason I wanted to make courses for bi-vocational and volunteer youth workers who struggle to do what they feel called to do but have no time for college; as well as for those who did go to college, but walked away with out the arsenal of practicality they thought they’d receive.
So many youth workers spend hours searching on the internet to get by meeting to meeting and piece meal a program without any cohesive plan. I want to change that. I want youth workers to save time and money and feel confident that someone is in there corner rooting them on.
I recently watch Katy Perry accept an award from the LGBT community, and what she said in the the first 30 seconds broke my heart. As one who has served the church for 27 years, I would have loved if Katy was talking about The Church.
There’s no other community that has done more to shape me
The two comments she makes, in the first 30 seconds, are indictments of the Church as a whole and youth ministry specifically.
Let’s begin with the first
There is no other community that has done more to shape my life
Community is supposed to be life changing, for the better. Unfortunately, the Christian community Katy grew up in did not have a positive impact on her. I do not want to point fingers, but someone dropped the ball on what a positive Christian community is supposed to look like.
As a youth worker, I want every young person to have a positive experience with the church community. Every year, my wife puts together a Youth Of The Year Banquet for the Boys and Girls Club. Kids get up and share stories about the positive impact the club has had on them and and many of them credit the organization for turning their life around.
How many of the kids in your youth ministry could say, “this community changed my life for the better?”
Can you imagine Katy Perry saying, to a packed room of youth workers, “This community change my life”? If we can’t imagine it, we should, because maybe if we asked these questions, we’d re-think how we are doing community and what our community is producing.
Our youth ministries are life shaping communities, for good or for ill.
There is no other community I believe in more than you.
Jesus changed my life along with a community called the church. There is no other community I believe in more than the church. This is what someone says when their
community embraces differences
community loves the outcast
community helps rather than hurts
community builds trust for a lifetime.
I don’t want to romanticize youth ministry or the church. It, like many others is flawed. It’s filled with flawed people. Like school bands who haze kids, coaches who value winning above character, companies who value profit over ethics, all communities can have a negative impact, not just the Church; but all those other organizations are not representatives on God incarnate upon the earth.
No other organization did the apostle Paul say of,
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her Ephesians 5:25
The expectations are much higher for a community of people who claim to be the hands and feet of Christ. Sadly, we use these hands to punch and our feet to kick others who are not like us. It’s no shock to me that Katy Perry would have someone else to thank for impacting her life in a positive way.
It’s because I have been deeply impacted by His church, His community, that I became a youth pastor so that I may help others discover this life saving and life altering community called The Church.
I am glad that Katy Perry found a community she could unashamedly thank and testify about. I just wish it could have been the church community. It’s our loss.
Is there anything you need to make your community a life giving community?
Can you imagine kids in your group thanking The Church, or more specifically, your youth ministry for having such a positive impact on their lives?
“Even now,” declares the Lord,
“return to me with all your heart,
with fasting and weeping and mourning.”
Even now. Saying this phrase transports me to the 80’s when I heard Bob Seger and the Silver Bullet Band sing it. It’s a song about love and about how much a woman has an impact on the singers life, even after so many years.
In my video this morning, I was thinking about the journey we all take ad the amount of “even now” moments we all face. We tell ourselves, “it’s too late”. “it’s over” and “I’ve gone too far”. Israel was notoriously idolatrus and hard hearted, yet, the Lord said, “Even now”.
Watch the video and ask yourself if you’ve had or are having an “even now” moment. My desire is that the video will fill you with hope to come back to the Lord from wherever you’ve been. He’s waiting for you.
Many try to withdraw from bank accounts where they have not invested and wonder why they’re told “insufficient funds”. It’s simple, we haven’t invested or haven’t invested enough.
What do I mean by invested? I mean we haven’t given enough encouragement, worth, value, love or upside to the individuals around us. We haven’t given others the motivation or inspiration that would give us the results we are looking for when we need it most.
We need to invest physically with rewards for accomplishments and rewards for absolutely nothing, other than we knew they liked a certain kind of something, we saw it, and bought it for them.
We need to invest emotionally with our time, our words, and our care. We have to give, care, and love deeply to receive deeply. We need to be generous with our encouragement even when (or especially when) others do not perform to our standard.
We need to invest spiritually with prayers and listening. We need to be there for others during their tough times and show grace upon grace. The measure with which we give is the measure with which we will receive.
Start today. Start investing in those around you, not for today but for a year, five years, ten years from now when know you are going to need to