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“When you enter the land which the LORD will give you, as He has promised, you shall observe this rite. “And when your children say to you, ‘What does this rite mean to you?’ you shall say, ‘It is a Passover sacrifice to the LORD who passed over the houses of the sons of Israel in Egypt when He smote the Egyptians, but spared our homes.'” And the people bowed low and worshiped.…
You know when you’e looking for one verse, and then you cross reference it and find another amazing verse? I love when that happens. The verse above is what I found and I passed it on to my parents and invited them to ask themselves deeper questions in response to their kids questions.
If you have kids, you know they ask us many questions, “Why is the sky blue?” “Why do Zebras, have stripes” “Are we there yet?” . It seems like a never ending stream of questions.
When they are older, the questions get a little harder “Why did so and so have to die?” What am I supposed to with my life?” and so on.
In-between the easy and the hard questions, they may ask you about your faith, “What does this rite mean to you?”
“Why do we go to church/Sunday school?”
“Why do we worship?”
“Why is the Bible important?”
Really, what they are asking is, “why is it important to you?”
Our student are out extended kids. They have questions too. But, they don’t necessarily want to know what the Bible says, they want to know what you say. That want a human answer not a Bible App answer. They want to know why ____________________ is important to YOU.
We can explain in very broad terms, such ‘That’s just what we do”
That’s cheating. Now’s a good time to examine why you do what you do. Why do YOU read your Bible? Why do YOU worship as you do? Why do YOU believe Jesus is God’s son? Why is communion important to YOU? Why is church important to YOU? and a dozen more. It’s a good idea to make a list of possible questions and write out your answers.
Youth Workers, you’re students may also have some questions about why you do what you do and why do you do it that way.
Why do you preach this way? Program this way? Lead this way?
Your kids deserve some deeper answers of why you’re doing what your doing and why you’re leading them the way you are.
Take some time, ask yourself some big WHY? questions so when kids ask you why is sharing Christ with others important to YOU? Why is camp important to YOU? They deserve a little more than, “I’ve always done it this way.”
Who knows, maybe you don’t have a good reasons and you find that you can change, try something different and change your youth ministry’s course in the process.
This is the sixth post in my series on The 9 Dynamic Ways To Revive Your Youth Ministry. Click HERE to start at the beginning if you like.
If you want to revive your youth ministry, look to the bottom grade level. Look at who is coming up from your kids ministry. Look at the middle school kids you already have. Here are some questions you’ll want to ask yourself and then do something about.
Do you have separate times to bond with just middle school kids?
Schedule some time to attend middle school events your middle school kids are in. Not because they are your biggest givers or give you the most affirmation, but because they are most likely to receive your investment as genuine love and interest.
Have you created an on-ramp for middle school kids to serve?
Whenever the church has asked me if there was anyone who could do X, I normally would recommend a middle schooler. I did so because I knew if they caught the serving bug, they’d go all in on it.
Middle school is a great age for discovery what they are good at and if we give them opportunity accompanied by affirmation, the church will benefit from their commitment for years to come.
Do you visit your children’s ministry once in a while to say hello?
I like to make monthly visits to kids church. I poke my head in and say hello and ask if they need anything. I like to meet new kids because one day they could be in the youth ministry and I don’t want them to think of me as a stranger.
I also volunteer for VBS, to take pictures at the Easter Egg Hunt, and do a booth at the Fall Festival. Is it always convent and simple to do these things? No, but I am sowing towards the future which means I need to plow the ground now.
Do your high school kids have a sense of responsibility?
Plan a few middle school only events and maybe ask some of your high school kids to tag along and “help”. Getting your high school kids to invest in the younger kids teaches them to pass on what they have learned.
I always remind my High School students that one day they won’t be in youth group any more. I ask then, “What will you leave behind?” This is discipleship.
“Go into your own youth ministry and make disciples of all middle school students.” Doing so brings a revival of service and an excitement from the bottom up.
How will you bring your middle school kids in?
We have a youth group of about 15-20 kids, which makes bringing middle school kids in homey and less anxious for the student.
Last year the middle school created a chain of teaches and students that an upcoming middle school student followed over to the youth room. It was the kids church’s way of seeing one of their own off to the youth ministry.
When the middle school student arrived our students picked them up off the ground, lifted them into the air, and cheered them. Pretty powerful stuff. The student also received a box of goodies, a bible, etc.
Here’s a video I did talking about a gift box for guests, it may give you some ideas.
Pay attention to the “bottom” of your youth ministry, it’s where life begins and the future is stored.
There is a fascinating interview with music legend Quincy Jones on the website Vulture. Quincy is turning 85 soon and, as I’ve witnessed older people do, he just lets loose on a variety of subjects.
Apart from him fluently using the phrase MF, Quincy shares some interesting insights on today’s music that, I think, are closely related to youth ministry. Here’s is a question and answer from that interview that sparked this post.
You’re talking about business not music, but, and I mean this respectfully, don’t some of your thoughts about music fall under the category of “back in my day”?
Musical principles exist, man. Musicians today can’t go all the way with the music because they haven’t done their homework with the left brain. Music is emotion and science. You don’t have to practice emotion because that comes naturally. Technique is different. If you can’t get your finger between three and four and seven and eight on a piano, you can’t play. You can only get so far without technique. People limit themselves musically, man. Do these musicians know tango? Macumba? Yoruba music? Samba? Bossa nova? Salsa? Cha-cha? – Quincy Jones
Music and Ministry
These two things have a lot in common. They are both emotional and they both require skill. As I pose in the title, I think we have leaned way further to the emotional side of youth ministry and forgotten some of the skill.
Most of the youth ministry shots you see on Instagram are meant to evoke emotion or show the emotion of a youth ministry. Maybe it’s the worship service, the altar time, the game time, and it they show you fun, laughter, tears and joy. None of this is wrong, but you don’t see “skill” shots on Instagram.
I don’t see youth ministry posts of kids reading their bible, sharing their faith, and other than summer missions trips, kids serving. I’m guilty of this as well, although I try to show the big picture though my Facebook Live streams of the big picture. I show students leading, students praying, students doing ministry.
I get it, fun shots sell the youth ministry. Look! We’re fun! And teenagers need fun, and need fun, right brain creative youth workers, but they also need left brain skill builder who can build long term follower of Jesus through a systematic approach. All fun and no skill isn’t youth ministry, it’s a club.
Quincy says it right, “You can only get so far without technique.” Emotions will only go so far in a youth ministry, that’s why youth worker have to develop the skills and, yes, even techniques of making disciples. Techniques sounds like a word that could suck all the emotion out of the room, but there is a technique to good youth meetings, good small groups, and good one on one discipleship.
Emotions or emotionalism will only lead a kid so far in their relationship with Christ (camp anyone?). That’s why the technique of training a kid to have a consistent devotion time is critical to that kids sustained faith in Christ.
Let’s look to one more question from the interview with Quincy Jones
What would account for the songs being less good than they used to be?The mentality of the people making the music. Producers now are ignoring all the musical principles of the previous generations. It’s a joke. That’s not the way it works: You’re supposed to use everything from the past. If you know where you come from, it’s easier to get where you’re going. You need to understand music to touch people and become the soundtrack to their lives.
Look To The Past
Wow! Read this again, but think youth ministry not music and you get the picture. Is youth ministry less good than it used to be? That;s pretty subject. The older you get the past doesn’t look so bad.
I was once young and thought we needed to throw out the hymn book or anything that reeked of the “old” but, as Quincy says, “that’s not how it works”.
I am not favoring teaching hymns to our kids, but, no matter what age youth worker you are, you should look to the past because the new and the now is passing before your very eyes.
There are cycles, fads, and trends. What you think is the model for youth ministry today is morphing right under your nose.
When I say look to the past, I’m not talking about past youth ministry ideas, although some may work (flannel graphs for days, am I right?), I’m talking about biblical principles that never change. The Bible shows us the pattern or the technique of following Jesus and the discipleship of others,; and while the youth ministry landscape continues to change, the truth of God’s word remains the same.
This is what the LORD says: “Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls. But you said, ‘We will not walk in it.’ Jeremiah 6:16
Emotional youth ministries may be exciting and even growing, but without good disciple making skills and technique, those youth ministries are a mile wide and an inch deep.
On the other hand, a youth ministry with all technique and no emotion robs kids of the value of expression and robs God from showing Himself strong within the students to cry out, leap for joy and dance for before their King.
Balance is the key, and I think that’s what Quincy was getting at. Music like ministry can be canned, one note, sugar coated, cheap rip offs of the real thing. Let’s make sure both milk and meat are at the table when students arrive to our youth groups and at least let them lean into what they need that night, but to have one and not the other is a spiritual dietary crime.
If you’re lookin for some discipleship resources that are filled with emotion and technique, feel free to check out my store.
Remember, even Sponge Bob understands that there’s value in technique when blowing a bubble
When Jesus looked up and saw a great crowd coming toward him, he said to Philip, “Where shall we buy bread for these people to eat?”He asked this only to test him, for he already had in mind what he was going to do. John 6: 5,6
Can you imagine Philip. I can see his eyes get real big at Jesus asking Him this question. Disciple were there to learn and to serve their masters, but this request must have sent his head spinning. He does’t want to disappoint Jesus.
No follower of Jesus I know, wants to disappoint Jesus, it just sort of happens. As follower of Christ we must always be read for that question which makes our eyes wide and sends our hearts into our throats.
Jesus will ask us to do the impossible. He will ask us to do something so far beyond us we cannot comprehend it.
We should do this with our students. We should challenge them with a “How are we going to do this..” knowing full well we plan to participate in the success of whatever idea they may come up with.
At this time I have challenge our students to give $200 towards supporting missionaries. I have given them three weeks to come up with this. This is a big goal for our group because they small and many of them do not work. But I have offered them some incentive.
I told them, “if you raise the $200 in three weeks I will bleach my hair blonde.” So, yes, this will happen if they reach their goal. What they do not know is that I want it to happen, so I am putting in $10 a week to help make it happen. That will be $30 towards the goal and they will need only $170.
Jesus did not want his disciples to fail, he wanted the people to be fed but he also want his disciples think in terms of faith and how they would join that faith with him to make it happen. Kids will bring their loaves and fishes and God will multiply it.
Just like Jesus was testing the faith of his disciples we also must test the faith of those we serve with big ideas and big challenges.
Meanwhile his disciples urged him, “Rabbi, eat something.”
But he said to them, “I have food to eat that you know nothing about.”
Then his disciples said to each other, “Could someone have brought him food?” John 4:31-33
When you go to a fast-food place, you stand and look up at the menu to order, but did you know that many restaurants have what is called a “secret” menu. These are items you cannot see, but can order them if you know what to ask for.
Arby’s has the meat mountain, a sandwich made with all the kinds of meats they serve.
McDonald’s has the Land, Sea and Air burger. This is a sandwhich with chicken, fish, and meat on it.
Sonics Purple Sprite is a mixing of lemonade, Powerade, and Cranberry juice.
When the disciples come back, they were concerned that Jesus had not eaten anything. Maybe Jesus had been fasting or simply ministering so much he had forgone eating. Jesus then described what was “feeding him”
“My food,” said Jesus, “is to do the will of him who sent me and to finish his work.”
Jesus was consumed with reaching those who had not been reached, like this Samaritan woman. Jesus was eating off the secret menu that the Pharisees and the disciples did not know was available to them.
As believers, we’re trained to “order off the menu”. We ask for a double portion of God’s blessing, large faith fries and a healing shake. When was the last time you ordered off the secret menu?
“Nazareth! Can anything good come from there?” Nathanael asked. “Come and see,” said Philip. John 1:46
Nathaniel was the first critic of Christ. He judged him because of where he was from. He didn’t think anything good could come from a bad place.
Disciples have to learn this principle early or they’re going to be a mess.
light from darkness
beauty from ashes
riches from poverty
life from death
identify from wandering
All of these things the disciples discovered three years later. Some things have to be caught rather than taught.
Those whom God has brought from hard places understand. Those who think it’s just a good idea to follow Jesus or who do not sense their own poverty of spirit and embrace humility will alway think things should go a certain way (mostly their way). Be prepared for disappointment.
Jesus showed his disciples grace in the learning process as we should show those students whom we disciple. They won’t understand until they are in the the throes of watching God bring about transformation.
Let’s act like good thing coming from bad places is normal and pray our students will catch on.
Andrew, Simon Peter’s brother, was one of the two who heard what John had said and who had followed Jesus.The first thing Andrew did was to find his brother Simon and tell him, “We have found the Messiah” (that is, the Christ).And he brought him to Jesus. John 1:40-42
What was the first thing you did after coming to Christ? Join a class? Start going to church? Neither of those are bad, but that wasn’t the first thing Andrew did. The first thing Andrew did was tell his brother. He shared what he had found.
How quickly this went
Evangelism: “There goes the Lamb of God”
Discipleship: “Where are you staying”
Evangelism: “We have found the Messiah
Discipleship: And he brought him to Jesus.
I think there are way to many levels between us and Jesus. Things we think we must do first before becoming “real” followers. We tell young people, directly or indirectly, you’re not ready for X. So, to get them ready, we build in so many layers to get them “ready” that I think we may actually be keeping kids from Jesus.
Evangelism and Discipelship are not not about being better educated, they’re about Spirit initiative. Andrews actions were motivated by an inward change. He was excited about what he had heard and then shared it.
I want kids to grow, but not at the expense of them not acting on what the Spirit initiates them to do. No, we cannot nor would we, intentionally, stop them from obeying the Spirit, but sometimes we send a subtle message that they’re not ready to share their faith.
Let’s take away every hinderance from a young person, or anyone else, who experiences Jesus Christ. Let’s tell them, “Go and share what you’ve learned with someone you care about!”